Nothing annoys me more than being summoned to solve someone else’s problem when they haven’t even attempted to fix it on their own. Effort-dumpi

Effort-Dumping: Why Nobody Likes You - Pablo Musumeci

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2024-11-20 16:00:03

Nothing annoys me more than being summoned to solve someone else’s problem when they haven’t even attempted to fix it on their own.

Effort-dumping is when someone dumps their problem onto someone else without attempting to solve it themselves. It’s lazy, inconsiderate, and puts the recipient in an uncomfortable position.

Pretty women get hit on constantly. Rejecting every man is exhausting and horrible, but being friendly to everyone lets people drain their energy and time.

Shields create distance between us and the things we want to avoid. It’s not their preference to use one—it’s basic survival.

The person being Effort-Dumped must build walls to protect themselves from the Effort-Dumper, who expects them to provide solutions to their problems.

People-pleasers struggle to climb the career ladder because they’re too uncomfortable wielding the power of a solid “No.” Without it, they’re left defenseless, spending their time bending over backward to help colleagues, instead of focusing on the work that earns promotions.