How to commit to the few right things
Since the start of the year, I’ve spent a lot of time speaking with friends and people I meet online about a common, difficult decision: in an ocean of interesting opportunities, how do I pick the few, right things that’ll take me the furthest? The good old “what do I commit to?” problem.
Some of these people are choosing whether to start their career at an established company or join an earlier-stage startup. Some people are wondering whether they should accept a generous job offer or continue looking for better opportunities. In these conversations and in my own experience, there are a few perspectives I’ve learned that seem to resonate with people.
If you’re any good at what you do, the opportunities you have around you are going to improve exponentially over time. There are a few feedback loops involved that make this so. If you’re good at what you do, there will always be people looking for people like you. Your network is going to grow, and as you get better opportunities and improve at your craft, your skill is going to grow, too. These all loop back on each other: being more practiced at your work attracts more people around you, and more people increases your chances of stumbling into the next great opportunity, where you’ll grow faster. In the end, you’re going to find yourself on a curve that bends upwards.
At any given moment in time, though, you won’t see the long arc that bends upwards in front of you or behind you. You’ll see a little tiny sliver of that curve that you sit on in that moment, and that small slice will feel relatively flat. So to predict what kinds of things you’ll do in the future, you’ll project that path forwards in time to months and years ahead in a straight line, not an upwards curve. Often people make commitment decisions based on whether the opportunities are better than where they expect to be in the future. And if they make the mistake of extrapolating their path linearly into the future, they’re always going to be faced with too many good opportunities.
