We looked at respondent data from Dimensional’s Personality test to explore how men and women differ in the way they express, desire, and think about love. We also examined how these traits change with age.
Most literature on love languages assumes that we express love the same way we desire it. For instance, if our highest desired love language is Service, then we also naturally give Service. Our research shows this assumption is wrong.
On average, less than one-third of users have alignment between the love languages they desire and the love languages they express.
The discrepancy between expression and desire of love languages was highest in Affirmation. Just 14% of respondents who had Affirmation in their top 2 desired languages (making it a "Signature" trait) also had it in their top 2 expressive languages.
Conversely, this discrepancy was lowest in Touch. Not surprising considering it’s difficult to desire being touched without also touching in return.