One of the ideas that I find to be flawed is the necessity of taking time to work on yourself before getting into relationships with others. Like most

Waterfall Model of Personal Development

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2021-05-29 14:00:16

One of the ideas that I find to be flawed is the necessity of taking time to work on yourself before getting into relationships with others. Like most ideas, it probably has some grain of truth in itself. Under some circumstances, this could even be the best way of going about things. But there are a lot of cases where this is not applicable at all. We define and discover ourselves within our relationships with others. You can’t get better at this stuff alone.

This notion of ta king time to work on yourself in isolation to figure yourself out in relation to others is equivalent to the waterfall methodology of product development. It is the assumption that you can correctly estimate what you need to be working on. It is the idea that you can meditate on a problem in abstraction, devise what is essentially a theory, and have it magically work in practice.

Imagine programming and shipping to production without ever compiling or testing your code. You define your functions, create your classes, construct ways to communicate to external APIs without ever running your code. It is possible that you could write something that looks great, but I am equally sure that it will not work well in production. It will fail in the most unexpected ways. It might even turn out that you were not working on the real problem all this time!